Your Body Fantasy is a Lie
You know that fantasy version of yourself?
The one who’s five pounds lighter. Or two dress sizes smaller. Or just “more toned.”
The one you picture walking into a room with confidence.
Finally buying the dress.
Finally posting the bikini pic.
Finally feeling good in her body.
Yeah. Her.
Let’s talk about her.
The Fantasy You Didn’t Know You Were Carrying
So many women carry this silent, ever-present hope: “When I lose the weight… Life will finally begin.”
We don’t always say it out loud. Sometimes we don’t even realize it’s in the background.
But it’s there—humming under the surface, shaping how we eat, move, dress, and show up.
It sounds like:
✨ “When I lose 10 pounds, I’ll be confident enough to go on dates.”
✨ “When I drop a pant size, I’ll finally wear the clothes I love.”
✨ “When my stomach is flatter, I’ll stop hating photos of myself.”
✨ “When I look a certain way, I’ll finally feel worthy.”
This is body fantasy—a term coined by Stephanie Dodier to describe an imagined future where everything magically gets better once our body changes.
Spoiler alert? It’s a load of 💩.
Why It Feels So Real (And So Hard to Let Go)
The fantasy makes total sense. We’ve been taught our whole lives that smaller = better.
That thinness is the fast pass to happiness, success, desirability, and worth.
From ads to rom-coms to Instagram “wellness” influencers—it’s everywhere.
So of course we believe it. Of course we chase it.
But here’s what they don’t tell you:
Even if you do hit your goal weight, the fantasy rarely comes true.
The anxiety, the self-doubt, the fear of judgment, the body shame—everything you carried in the beginning?
It usually comes along for the ride, right next to you in the passenger seat.
Why?
Because it wasn’t about your body—it was about your beliefs.
Sure, the weight might be gone, but odds are the beliefs didn’t disappear with it.
And when that fantasy starts to crumble?
It stings. A lot.
Body Grief Is Real
Letting go of the fantasy is freeing… But first, it’s painful.
You grieve—not just the dream body, but the dream life you thought would come with it.
That’s body grief. And it’s so real, sis.
You might feel sadness. Confusion. Anger.
You might feel like you wasted years chasing something that was never going to give you what you actually needed.
And babe, if that’s where you are—I see you.
I’ve been you.
So What’s On the Other Side?
Letting go of the fantasy doesn’t mean giving up on yourself.
It means…
💕 Finally coming home to yourself—and rebuilding trust with your body.
💕 Choosing clothes that fit you now—not the “someday” version of you.
💕 Realizing that confidence isn’t five pounds away—it’s five beliefs away.
It’s not easy. But it is worth it.
Because on the other side of the fantasy? There’s…
🌟 Peace
🌟 Freedom
🌟 Joy
🌟 Pleasure
🌟 You
Ready to stop chasing the fantasy and start living your real, gorgeous, messy, magical life?
This is exactly the kind of work I do with my clients—helping you rewrite your story around food, your body, and your self-worth.
If this hit home, come say hi, check out my quiz, or book a call.
You don’t have to do this alone. 🩷
